Matt 39, director at Video Europe and Lucy 28, a self employed personal trainer (Lucy Marner Fitness) they have two children Mason 6 and Jaxon 3.
How and when did you find out you were pregnant?
I was working in LA as a singer at the time, my husband was with me on that trip, and I just remember feeling really queasy all week. When I returned home I did a pregnancy test (at work of all places!) and found out we were expecting our first child.
How did it change your life?
My husband and I (boyfriend at the time!) had only been together for 10 months when we found out we were expecting a baby together, we were both positive about it though, and were already living together and madly in love with each other, so it made perfect sense for us to continue our journey together and start a family.
Being pregnant was great, I enjoyed it and only had a couple months of feeling nauseous at the beginning, I really embraced it and it was very new and exciting for both of us.
Unfortunately when our son was about four months old I developed post natal depression, which was really tough on our relationship, as neither of us knew that was what was affecting me-it was very stressful. Once I got the help I needed, the support from friends and family, and the right medication, I felt better within a couple of weeks. I stayed on anti-depressants for six months. I like to be open about that part of my life, I have helped many other friends get through their PND.
Tips on preparing someone for motherhood
I am quite an organised person, so I found out both times what we were having (two boys!) so I could prepare all their clothes and decorate their bedrooms, but realistically, you don’t need a lot of stuff, just the basics and lots of love. What I would say, is no one tells you how sore and weak you’re going to feel after labour, so make sure you’re prepared for that.
Why did you decide to be a personal trainer?
After I gave birth to my firstborn I was desperate to get back into my skinny jeans. When my son was just six weeks old, I hired a personal trainer to come to my house, whilst my son was with me, and kick my ass back into shape. I saw her three times a week, and within six months I had my body back and was feeling the fittest I’ve ever been in my life, it was great, and really helped with my mood and mental health too.
He was around a year old when I decided I wanted a change in career, and loved the idea of becoming a personal trainer, and really envied the lifestyle and hours that my personal trainer did. I knew that this would be a good career choice for me, to be able to work self employed, as and when I wanted around the kids.
It took me nine months to complete my course and qualify as a PT and I enjoyed every minute of my time at college, and zapped up all the information like a sponge.
I set up my little business and I now work 3 days a week, in-between school hours, so it’s perfect for all of us.
I really enjoy what I do, I took inspiration from my own experiences and now I specialise in training postnatal mums, helping them to get their bodies back to where they want them to be. It’s very rewarding for both the client and myself, and I have such a good friendship and rapport with each of my clients.
How do you find being a working mum?
Sometimes it’s tough, especially as the younger one is still at preschool, and the eldest one being at school, it’s hard to find the time to do the housework, help them with their homework, be a good wife, and mum all at once. But we get through it like everyone does and the most important thing is we’re all happy, healthy, and having fun while working hard!
Tips for anyone looking into personal training as a career…
I would say if you have an interest in keeping fit and helping others, then this is a great career choice. Whether it be working in a gym full time or setting up your own business like I have.
I trained at the YMCAfit in London, another great company that teaches PT’s and Les Mills.
Best thing about being a Mum
The best thing about being a mum, without a doubt is watching my children grow and learn something new, I’m fascinated by how quickly they pick things up, and I’m super proud of both of them! Secondly, I love all the kisses and cuddles I get. They are my absolute world.
The worst thing about being a mum is dealing with the tantrums! Being the sole carer of the kids throughout day while my husband works, means I have to deal with it on my own most of the time, so it can be pretty stressful. I really don’t enjoy repeating ‘get your shoes on’ 100 times in the morning, but somehow I think my kids think I do. But the key is, to always have a bottle of wine in the fridge ready to go in an emergency!